question two.

August 18, 2011 at 9:58 pm 4 comments

this project makes me a feel a little bit like a gushy, loosy-goosy victorian girl, clutching each of you to my chest, crowing in effusive italics.

so i’m curious, what makes a close friendship for you? how do you define it? how many do you have? how many do you think it’s possible to have?

and the eternal question– does the internet bring us closer together or farther apart?

i loved getting people out of the woodwork with my last question. join them! answer this one! or go back and answer that one! or comment on another post!


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friend eleven. question three.

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  • 1. puckworth  |  August 24, 2011 at 7:19 am

    you and your inexhaustible italics.

    this is something i’ve been thinking about with the moving-to-a-new-city and the planning-a-wedding and and and. there’s a friend i’m kind of dating who doesn’t keep up with people when they move away, they really keep losing friendships fairly regularly as people cycle in and out of town. and i just think about how strange that is to me with how… pretty much if someone’s been my close friend ever, i will consider them a close friend always? and how someone can be a closer friend if i’ve never met them, than the friends i hang out with every few days?

    and there’s that crawley friend of ours who i’ve never met but still feel really close to. and that’s really weird, and it’s always the kind of thing that i don’t know if it’s creepy to them (there was a point where it was like “you hardly know us but you’re our best friends in this town) or if they feel the same way?

    but i play kind of loose and easy with my close friendships. trying to pick wedding attendants has been really difficult – nat’s having four, and i have a maia of honor and then this list of people where it’s a bit like old lars where i’m like “well if i am going to take this one, i’m going to take that one… and if i’m going to take this one…”

    and i don’t think that dilutes anything. i think that if i ache to see them again sometime, a friend who’s moved across the world is still a close friend.

  • 2. cubbie  |  August 25, 2011 at 2:39 am

    dear martha,

    hello robert. “Graceless old Mr. Carpenter had died laughing–saying something about Italians.” new city = bellingham or…?

    i’ve recently started associating with someone who says things like, “you’re my favorite! but that changes pretty quickly.” or, it’s like the fairies in peter pan– completely and utterly present to whatever mood they are in.

    that last line makes a lot of sense. i just wonder if my lack of consistency has contributed to a lack of richness.

    • 3. puckworth  |  August 30, 2011 at 3:05 am

      i think that’s just general fairyness. damn fairies.

      (i was being notified of follow-up comments but then you didn’t reply, you just commented on your post.)

      • 4. cubbie  |  August 31, 2011 at 4:48 pm

        it is sometimes awkwardly difficult to post a reply to a comment sometimes. though i’m over at the comment admin section and can reply directly this way, which i didn’t know… but sometimes if you are over on the blog, it doesn’t give you that option.

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